How to help a loved one
“Parenting does not come with instructions. We are all learning along the way and doing the best we can for our families.”
-Sacramento Mom
Anyone can give support
Families and friends can help reduce the risk of perinatal mood and anxiety disorder by providing emotional and physical support to parents.
Many new parents worry they will be a burden to their family and friends if they ask for help.
Maybe you are one of those people. You can actively break the cycle.
Here are some things you can do to provide support:
Help them make a support plan.
Having a plan can help reduce stress. You never know the baby’s temperament or whether or not they will be a good eater or sleeper will be until they get here. Contingency plans are important. See the link below to start talking about a support plan.
Make sure they are engaged in self-care.
Chronic sleep deprivation is a significant contributor to a person's ability to feel well. Offer to watch the baby so they can sleep or rest. Check out the link below for ideas on the kinds of self-care birthing people need.
Make sure they are eating.
Often new parents forget to eat or experience a lack of appetite when they are overwhelmed. Ask when the last time they ate. Even better - bring a snack with you when you visit.
Get them moving.
Take them for a walk with the baby or offer to watch the baby so they can go on a walk solo.
Jump in where you see you can be helpful.
If they are out of certain items, go to the store for them. If there are dishes in the sink, do them. If the toilet looks like it could use a clean, clean it!
Reinforce that all new parents need and deserve help.
They are not failing they are doing exactly what they need to be doing.
Just listen.
Don't give advice, unless asked.
Advocate.
Actively help them connect to resources.
